I have been reading an excellent book which studies the sermon on the mount called Voice From the Hills (Greenslade).
I highly recommend it. It is very well written and incredibly insightful. It’s not a light read, and I do, at times, think he takes a metaphor too far, but it’s no reason not to read the book and let the content shape you.
It did make me think, though, as I read the Golden Rule: “Love others as you love yourself”, at just how twisted our culture has become in London, as we take these words of Jesus, and apply them to our lives.
How self centred are the cultural influences to read that passage and then inform those wanting answers to tell them to “love themselves.”?! Is that really the answer? Jesus asks us to love God, first, and then us last; and we take it to mean we must love ourselves! I am truly astounded.
This is not what Jesus was teaching. He’s not really into the self centred attitude that comes from these uncomfortably wrong applications. Forgive me for stating the obvious, but Jesus knows how dreadfully sinful we are, so for him to say love others as you love yourself means we should love others. Full stop.
Why?
Because we love ourselves. All sin is based around a self-centred attitude that we know better than Jesus how to love our lives. Even if it seems self-sacrificial it is based in the motivation to build our pride. We all know those people who don’t know Jesus and are endlessly selfless, and yet there is a lack. In all of it: we know how to love ourselves.
This leads to the related train of thought; hurt people hurt people. In their love of others they only know how to love by hurting people. Because it’s how they’ve been treated it moves down the chain…
Ultimately, we must remember that Jesus’s command to love others as we love ourselves is supposed to give us a reference for loving others; we should put the energy we usually put into selfish sin into loving others. Losing oneself. As Keller says regularly, the Gospel brings a humility that is not “thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of ourselves less.”
Don’t be fooled by the western trap to bring the imperative “love yourself”. Jesus loves you more than you know, and thought of himself less and less as he was walking from the cradle to the cross.