How many friends on Facebook represent active relationships?
Some people don’t have Facebook.
I wrote this to make sense of what I saw:
“The man had lived on the streets for years. He obviously had experience of travel. He had a fairly well spoken demeanour, and spoke of seeing New York and parts of Mexico. Now he was ragged and confused. This once well-travelled, witty, family man, had been lowered to the observers of everyone’s success but his own. He sat on the tube that day; a pile of newspapers cushioning his seat. he spoke with excitement about the state of the world, and how our MPs were corrupt and selfish. But there was a pain behind his eyes. Had his perception of the world been shaped by some terrible past experience?
The loss of his wife came shortly after his relationship with alcohol had become a priority but didn’t mix well with the family and she’d left with the children without a trace. It had been a result of needing to unwind after stressful days at the office, soon they became nights at the office. And led to a considerable number of nights in the office, which was why he was dismissed. The compassion he required was not found in the city of Men. The competition had taken his marriage and his job.
He had crossed the Atlantic looking for the love of his life. He searched high and low, spent what little he had to travel from city to city. He just wanted to see his children again. Now he was on the streets. The simple need to speak was apparent whenever people were within a few feet of him. Alcohol wasn’t there anymore, but the damage of his experiences had done enough to make his behaviour repelling.
He sat, alone.
In his hands were a pile of A5 informational flyers from the London Underground, and a red marker pen. He carefully wrote:
“CITY WIDE
FLAT FARE 170p
25 MILES
NEW YORK”
The other side had “MPs SCUM TAX PETROL”
It made sense to him.
Once he had completed the task, he put the flyer at the bottom of his pile and started again. This was his way of coping. He was alone.”
Greed — Hoarding unnecessary resources indefinitely to absurd amounts, way beyond the lifespan of the person to whom they belong.
Gluttony — Consuming copious amounts of resources, far more than recommended, or required, to sustain, encourage growth and bring enjoyment; to the point of cumbersome living beyond possible enjoyment of current resources available.
Wordy and laboured definitions of 2 sins far worse when watched over years.
Greed refuses to use what he has. Gluttony refuses to moderate the usage. It becomes a one or the other mentality.
Jesus had an experience with a rich young man which concluded:
Matt 19:21 “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” 22 When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.
23 And Jesus said to his disciples, “Truly, I say to you, only with difficulty will a rich person enter the kingdom of heaven. 24 Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.”
What astonished me in a recent reading of this story was the disciples reaction. “Who then can be saved?”. It was as if they knew that all were rich in some respects; or at least all who were present.
To be rich or to be poor is less about what you have, and more about how you treat what you have. Do you hoard? Do you consume?
In a way, poverty can be seen as a state brought on by the greed of others, or the gluttony of the individual. I don’t want to blame the poor for their state of being, but there are those that have found themselves in poverty due to their laziness (Proverbs 23:33-34).
Bridging this reflection on how we treat the what the world has to offer I am beginning to realise that after the root of sin (idolatry) is realised you can see it everywhere. But the wider effect takes these two forms.
Sin is idolatry. Making something more important than it actually is. Everything is below God, hence you either worship a person, an object, and idea, or the creator of all of the above. But out of idolatry these two deadly sins arise; greed and gluttony. I don’t know where to go with this train of thought, except in practical application, the true response to available resources is generosity.
Generosity led Jesus to use all he had to save us from all we had. Whether we filled storehouses, filled stomachs, empty bank accounts, or empty stomachs, he came to use all he had, giving away all his riches, becoming poor, to make us rich.
True generosity is the true use of resource. Not hoarding or consuming. Maybe I should have called this “Generous: How to use what you have”
My only failure would have been I’m not going to tell you how to be generous.
This is a reaction:
It’s harder and harder for junk mail filters to work effectively. As we enter into a new age of the Internet, the old junk that is kindly removed before we see it is now more prominent than ever, and yet we don’t notice it. Why? Google and other clever corporations have worked on ways to ensure we don’t see the ridiculous pleas to click and win $2,000,000; or have a larger… house.
The new junk is clever and asks for less clicking and more volunteering. That is, volunteering of information. I’ve had the occasional request from HSBC and Halifax to send them my personal details to ensure that, since their security breach, they will be able to verify who I am and lock down my account. These are easy to spot as neither of these I bank with.
However, desperate emails from foreign citizens find their way into my inbox. The trouble with these is you’re unsure if they’re legitimate or not (they’re not) and they use life stories to suck you in. And if that wasn’t enough, they usually offer large cash sums along the way. The last one I was offered $54,000,000. A small proportion of a 17 year old boys inheritance, who was stuck at customs for being under age and carrying a suspicious amount of money.
I pick on this one because it is the most recent and the most convincing. Yet it is also the most disgusting. Why? The setting of the boys background was the Libyan crisis, of which he managed to escape with his fathers inheritance who was killed by Gadaffi’s forces.
This pulls on our conscience. We know what’s going on out there, to a degree, and now it has found it’s way onto my doorstep. Surely I should help (regardless of the large sum of money being offered).
I leave this open. But here are some tips I’ve used to check if the email is from a legitimate source:
1. Check the spelling. Simple spelling mistakes will crop up where the claim is false.
2. Check grammar and punctuation. As point 1.
3. Check the “From” email address. This is usually a random set of letters and numbers. If the email is coming from a lawyer you would expect a simpler email address somehow relating to the name given in the email.
4. Check the “To” or “Cc” fields. Either your email will not appear at all. This means you have been “BCc’d” on the email, meaning it could have gone to thousands of others. Or there are a few other email addresses that appear randomly generated in the same fields.
5. Finally, if in doubt delete it. If it’s truly important but you don’t know what to do, they will be in touch again. And if they have your email and they are legitimate they should have got it from a legitimate source. If they don’t give any good reason as to why they have your contact details then it is highly suspicious.